Mr. ENFP works on occasion at a local music venue which houses both random, weird local to the area, and famous musicians, in this case, John Popper from Blues Traveler. Specifically, he’s coming May 17. Mr. ENFP is working for that show, and told me about it a month ago, and much to his surprise, I was a giddy little school girl. He often tells me of the artists he meets, and most of the time it’s like telling me what you had for dinner. But, I am a huge Blues Traveler fan. Child of the 90’s I am. So he and his friend, who also works at the MIM were talking, and the subject of John Popper came up. Apparently the dude is a total tool. Needless to say, the autograph I have been pining for will not be happening, and frankly, after further information, I don’t know that I want it. His production company is called Vaginal Teeth. Surely by decision of MIM, there will be no females on the crew that show. When Mr. ENFP told me that, it was more than slightly off putting. The vag gives life, and love, it doesn’t bite. It’s soft and warm, and a place of safety. Surely we all have our qualms about the vag (Is it itchy? Does it smell ok?), but at its core is what makes me a woman.
The name – Vaginal Teeth – in itself is derogatory towards women. It implies evil and malice – like the vag is out to get you, or something of that nature. I’ve been running with this thought since 7am this morning. In a world of #metoo, and all of the other movements that have come up, a name so blatantly anti women just is jarring.
I am sure whoever formed this company surely has some deep rooted issues towards women, none of which I can address. Also, I know I wasn’t always perfectly wonderful towards men I dated. I have been called cold on numerous occasions. Once I decided I wanted out of a relationship, or that it wouldn’t work, I was done. I never cheated. I never intentionally inflicted harm. And, now as a woman, half of my life is based on care. I care for my husband. I make sure clothes are ironed, people are fed, dogs are walked, etc. I care for my son, which is obviously a time consuming endeavor, as life is with all two year olds. I care for my dad, who has lung cancer, by going with him to MD Anderson every other month. Those trips are no picnic. They’re grueling, and long, and by the end, as much as I love my dad, we have to take a few days off from each other. I care for Mr. ENFP. I offer counsel to him. I share my days with him. We support each other. I care for my male bosses. I make sure they have what they need. I try to anticipate their needs for work. All of this I do while having none other than a vagina.
I’d like to say I’ll get past this situation and be the avid fan that I always have been, but I’m really not sure. While me and my vag don’t always have a loving relationship with each other, she’s mine. She’s what makes me, me. And really, that’s a lie. My vag and I always do great together. I know how to make her happy, always. It’s when you start adding other parties to the mix that she can be picky. Be kind to the vag. Without her, none of us would be here. She should be cherished and loved.